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According to Buddha

I view death as a normal process, a reality that I accept will occur as long as I remain in this earthly existence. Knowing that I cannot escape it, I see no point in worrying about it. I tend to think of death as being like changing your clothes when they are old and worn out, rather than as some final end. Yet death is unpredictable: We do not know when or how it will take place. So it is only sensible to take certain precautions before it actually happens.

Hedy Bach Photography

Hedy Bach Photography

Hedy Bach Photography

Hedy Bach Photography

Hedy Bach Photography

Hedy Bach Photography

Hedy Bach Photography

think i’ll go out to alberta, weather’s good there in the fall
i got some friends that i could go to working for
still i wish you’d change your mind,
four strong winds that blow lonely, seven seas that run high
all those things that don’t change, come what may
if the good times are all gone, and i’m bound for moving on
i’ll look for you if i’m ever pass this way


Anton Albertus Fynebuik 1931-11-10 to 2017-04-18
Chinook Hospice, Calgary Alberta, April 2017

  1. This is a very powerful and moving set of images, Hedy. You see beyond their illness to who they are. Cheers

    • it’s been an intense couple of years Chris…these are images of my father from when he was young through to his last breath when he was dying…Tuesday night my sister and I walked with him to his death…it was a profound experience…we learned a lot and we had a lot of support… <3

      • Yes, Death is a great teacher, and he is full of love for those who dare to face him. The last pictures remind me … have many golden days! Best regards from Vienna.

        • the last 5 years were tough for Anton…he had 80 golden ones…along with all of life’s ups and downs…photographing his journey til the very end has been a powerful experience for me…seeing beauty…thank you for your comments Vienna ~ smiles hedy from snowy Alberta 😀

  2. I’m sorry I did not put together that this was about your father. You’ve written a bit about medical care but I did not realize. It’s a loving tribute to him. I’m sure you’ll miss him greatly.

  3. as natural as it can be
    where there is life,
    there is death.
    smile as a good life holds you in its grasp.
    another day to be thankful for,

    • <3 and dear Eddie your posts over this time gave me support and will continue to make me smile and wonder…i appreciate your wise words…and yes i'm thankful for today it's a snowy day pure white and ever so quiet and still…peace and thank you kindly <3

      • pieces of our heart we leave scattered across time remain forever
        hugs, my dear friend

        • yes…pure clear white light from which everything in the universe comes, to which everything in the universe returns…we found comfort in the The Tibetan Book of the Dead <3 hugs Eddie…i love pieces of our heart we leave scattered across time remain forever…i will use this at my father's celebration…thank you for your teachings <3

  4. Solid, heartbreaking commemoration of our loved ones! Zsolt

  5. The last 3 photos show so much emotion and I know mean so much to you and your family, beautiful. Death is also an unknown, are we reborn in another form, pass to another life or just cease to exist, very confusing to us mere humans. Have a wonderful day Hedy, I am in Washington with my little one having a wonderful time.

    • photographing what i was witnessing over the past 13 months has been healing for me Terry…”let go into the clear light, trust it, merge with it. It is your own true nature, it is home.” i found comfort in the words from the The Tibetan Book of the Dead…and nothing better than being with a little one…sending peace, joy and fun! thank you <3

  6. A life depicted so artistically and with such gravitas. It looks like a life lived with passion. I’m sorry for your loss, Hedy. <3 I'm glad you could be with your Dad. The last photos are so touching and emotional–thank you for sharing this intimate time with us. Death is so literally a part of life, yet our "modern" society either sensationalizes it or doesn't allow us to grieve normally. I hope you can take some time to feel, and I wish you comfort and peace. Sending love. <3 M.

    • Anton was cheerful and cherished <3 …yes i have time…and he gave us a lot of time to view life with equanimity…thank you for your kindness M. <3 heartfelt…such a pretty snowy day…walking in white <3

  7. A touching experience and pictures about life and love. Beautiful and powerful.

    • yes touching…profound to see fears and sorrows change into hopes and joys..he faced the phenomenon of death with fortitude and calm…it was a beautiful and powerful experience…thank you kindly Alex <3

  8. Hedy. It would be easy to say that “I’m sorry for your loss.” But, we both believe about the same thing. As the late Mr. Harrison once sang, “all things must pass.” That said, I’m about to do something that I rarely do and reblog this. This might be one of the most important blogs I’ve read in a long, long time. If you get a chance list to Neil’s “Letter Home” album. Peace.

  9. Reblogged this on STORYTELLER and commented:
    As you know, I rarely reblog. But, this one by my blogging friend Hedy Bach reaches me in a very deep way.

    • thank you kindly Ray…it’s been a very deep experience for many many reasons…as i continue to learn about dying with dignity in Canada…respectfully…sending you joy <3

  10. Reblogged this on luc20090's Blog.

  11. ❤️🙏

  12. So incredibly moving. Sending deepest condolences and sincere thanks for sharing this experience.

    • Thank you kindly Miss Parker 😌 I appreciate your kindness….I’ve always created posts for me…as thought things…to make meaning of my narrative experiences….compose a beautiful day ❤️ smiles hedy 😌

  13. My sympathy to you and your family; Peace in the coming weeks…

    • oh yes Mic…9 months hospice care…i also plan to sleep…without my phone…i am at peace <3 snowy smiles

      • Sleep, yes…and don’t forget yoga and meditation… Take care, Hedy.

        • i do Mic…we have been pre pre preparing…witnessing a dear loved one suffer was gut wrenching for me…he is now at peace and still close and yes i’ve been mediating and doing my daily yoga for which i am grateful for…i’ve learned a lot Mic thank you kindly ~ smiles hedy <3

  14. quite a personal post…..

  15. Beautiful Hedy…

  16. This is a daring, powerful and moving memorial. There it is, death, and thank you for facing it. take care!

    • dear Lynn i’m reminded of the words from The Open Door by Helen Keller…“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” thank you kindly for your words ~ appreciated smiles hedy 😀 <3

      • You’re welcome, and I wanted to tell you that I especially love the photo of Anton holding the baby – their expressions of simple wonder, so alike…in almost all the photos he has a rather beatific expression. I’ve been with several people as they were dying in recent months, and it can be profound.

        • yes Lynn we all live these stories…some harder than others…death is a normal part of life…that image of Anton was last father’s day with his great grandson Owen Anton…it was such a tender moment…both of them so calm…blissful indeed… <3 thank you for your thoughtful words ~ appreciated hedy 😀 <3

  17. Such beautiful truthful moving photos Hedy. Sorry for your loss 🙁

    • thank you kindly Alison…a profound experience…our little family is at peace…of course there is sadness…but also relief from witnessing his suffering… <3

  18. I’m so sorry, Hedy, for the loss of your father. Your images are stunning, beautiful and very moving. What a tribute to your father and it is a gift that you were with him in his final moments. My sincere condolences to you and your family. Four Strong Winds…

    • thank you kindly Jane…i documented his journey after his March 2016 medical error both as a researcher, his agent and as a way to make meaning and to learn through this experience…my father was a cherished man…so loved and being there with my sister in his final hours was both profound and beautiful… <3

  19. my condolences, Hedy. Such a personal and moving post full of respect. Wish you strength, love and many smiles.

    • thank you kindly Markus…our little family is strong…i appreciate all your kindness and i send you smiles and love back over the pond <3

      • it’s such a good feeling to have a strong family. – when my father passed away 2 y.a. we had enough time to let go and say goodbye. It was a great gift to get the chance to let go.
        smiles to your family and you 🙂

        • yes it is a good feeling…we are all fine…i like the idea of a great gift…of course i’ve got my hedy wonders about the body politic and i see work that needs to be done…but for now i’m meditating and composing a celebration of his life for friends and family…i am satisfied that we have done our best within the Alberta context…and he left me with many teachings so i know what to do…at least a little more…thank you Markus ~ smiles 😀

  20. A bridge we all must cross alone.The love you show Hedy tells me your parents did right by you.
    your fathers lasting legacy is you.

    • thank you kindly W 😀 yes a river we all cross as i learned from the death doula 😀 your words are very nice for me to read…now i’m busy cooking making lots of food…and listening to some Johnny Cash and Neil Diamond songs that he loved…he’s in my heart <3 😀

  21. Amazing post, start to finish. Your perspective is imbued with so much awareness. Thanks for sharing…

    • humble thank you John 😀 …as Sarah Kerr taught us…The dead need the living as much as the living need the dead…my father along with supportive friends and family have taught me so much…thank you for commenting…

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